By: Queue Murphy
Why does this stage of life start with the word MEN? Did a man make up this name? Did a man feel his life was ‘Paused’ because his wife lie there every night sweating like a furnace next to him in bed…pulling the sheets on and off….tossing and turning not being able to sleep… Is his life ‘Paused,’ or is her life ‘Paused?’ Or is the ‘Pause,’ there because the loss of libido and sex drive by the woman, for the man? Who and what is pausing????
When sitting across from a dear friend or family member who has sweat dripping from her face while she talks to you, making you want to pull off your own clothes in support – do you ignore it? Do you help to fan her off? When it happens to me, do I want to be fanned off, or ignored – depends on who it is I guess! The young men who sit around me at work remind me of my own inner furnace going haywire when they respond to my question by saying that they’re not hot – the room temperature is fine – maybe it’s because I am sitting next to a window – yeah, that’s it, I tell them!
I look down and see my body shape changing rapidly – the pear shape I fought so hard against these past 10 years is now becoming an apple shape I feel I have no control over…who is this new woman in the mirror? This woman in Men-O-Pause!
I found a great site to help me understand some of what I and millions of others are going through…maybe this is where I start to ‘Unpause’ the ‘Pause.’
More Fire in the hole:
I found that whenever I drank wine, I would start heating up again. I wondered if it was the alcohol or the grapes. I sat down the next day with a bunch of grapes and ate them - I didn’t get any hot flashes….now I did not sit down with a bottle of rubbing alcohol to see if that was the genesis of the hot flashes, but I have my suspicions….
And more weight gain:
Two weekends ago I ran a 5K with some friends in Melbourne, Florida. It was 90 degrees and humid and I sweated like a ….well, you know. OK, so I actually walked the 5K because I have a knee healing from a torn meniscus - but I still sweated like a mountain stream after a torrential rainfall - I digress. I thought that I must’ve lost at least 10 pounds in sweat alone. When I got home a few days later - I had actually gained 6 pounds - ARGH - another symptom of menopause. Women usually gain 15-25 pounds during menopause and it appears mostly around the middle. The biggest issue with this is the other health factors that can be affected - heart disease, stroke, high blood pressure, high cholesterol, sleep apnea. I myself am having difficulty with higher cholesterol and higher sugar. I need to begin to change the way I am eating and exercising.
Queue is a mother of 4. She is raising her second generation of kids and loves to create. She loves to travel, bike ride and swim. She loves diversity, politics and long drives on untraveled roads.