Every day Life
Picture day came and went, and from past experience I knew that it could be a great day, or it could be a disaster.
OK, picture this: New school, new neighborhood, tweens picture day and she wants to impress her new friends. Temperatures are up into the middle 90’s outside, so they are definitely higher in school since not every classroom has a fan….forget about any air conditioners.
She has a cute shirt, cute shorts, don’t even think about wearing a skirt…she’s not that kind of girl…yet. Even though she knows that most of the other girls are wearing skirts, she decides to be herself and wear shorts….YES I AM PROUD SHE CHOSE TO BE HERSELF.
Now, the shoes. Remember, it’s 94 + degrees in class…and the last time she got off the bus she was so hot her face was red. My daughter in her infinite wisdom decides to wear her new ankle high boots instead of her well ventilated tennis shoes. I’m starting to breath deep now because I’m hoping the increase of oxygen is going to give me the wisdom to argue my tweens decision away without enticing a fight/argument/tears/yelling/throwing or any other protest.
“It’s 94 degrees out and it’s even hotter at school Honey, “ I argued. “and I don’t think anyone will be able to see your shoes in the picture.”
“I know,” she answers standing back and making a cute modeling pose. “But don’t you think I look cute?”
I breathe deeply again, hoping that the genius that comes from a calming breath will definitely kick in SOON. The only thing that comes to my mind is that ….she will learn from this.
My thoughts race…”But what if she faints on the stairs? What if there’s no one around? What if”….another breath comes and goes and I say..”Yes Honey you look very cute. And if you start to feel sick or nauseous please ask to see the nurse.”
She ignores me and fixes her hair. At the end of the day; Yes she was hot, but she lived through it and we are both happier for not arguing about it.
Control = zero, Ego = zero, Happy Home = YES!!!